Would You Feel Special?
I asked them this question: "Would you feel special if your girlfriend tells you that you are her first boyfriend?"
They gave interesting answers. Some of them said that they will feel special. However, there was one who said that he would find it hard to believe. Why? According to him, girls are having boyfriends like no one's business. So if he were to encounter such a situation, he will just smile but refuse to believe it in his heart. He goes on by saying that each girl defines "first" differently. For Jane, it may be the "first" boy she held hands with. For Jill, it may be the "first" boy she brought home to meet her parents. Of course everyone has different definitions of "first". Interesting.
Next question I asked was: "Assuming you are having a break-up with your girlfriend and she said that after you there will be no one else. In short, you will be the last to hold that special place in her heart. Will you believe her?"
All of them were unanimous, saying that they won't believe any word of it. One of them said that he will just smile and nod his head, but in his heart, he won't accept it. Why? Their main reason was that their girlfriend said those words in the midst of the break-up, because they want to salvage the situation. Most of them saw that these girls end up with another guy after a few months . One of them said that he does say these words but not in the midst of a break-up. Instead he said it while they are together to show his girl his love for her. Are those words that he said then to her binding? According to him, no. His reason was that he said that in the midst of a spur of emotions. At that point of time, he does feel that way. However, months later, he may not feel the same again, especially so when the girl becomes unfaithful or something along those lines. Do you agree?
How about the girls? How will you feel if your boyfriends say these things to you? Will you feel special?
Personally, I would feel special if the girl tells me that I am her first. Of course it must be said truthfully and sincerely. As for the second question, I find it hard to believe if she tells me that. Why? Just look at society.