Would You Feel Special?
I was having a break with my friends when the topic of relationships surfaced. What else do you expect from a bunch of NSFs? But this is different. There's nothing dirty or whatsoever, everything's wholesome and noteworthy.
I asked them this question: "Would you feel special if your girlfriend tells you that you are her first boyfriend?"
They gave interesting answers. Some of them said that they will feel special. However, there was one who said that he would find it hard to believe. Why? According to him, girls are having boyfriends like no one's business. So if he were to encounter such a situation, he will just smile but refuse to believe it in his heart. He goes on by saying that each girl defines "first" differently. For Jane, it may be the "first" boy she held hands with. For Jill, it may be the "first" boy she brought home to meet her parents. Of course everyone has different definitions of "first". Interesting.
Next question I asked was: "Assuming you are having a break-up with your girlfriend and she said that after you there will be no one else. In short, you will be the last to hold that special place in her heart. Will you believe her?"
All of them were unanimous, saying that they won't believe any word of it. One of them said that he will just smile and nod his head, but in his heart, he won't accept it. Why? Their main reason was that their girlfriend said those words in the midst of the break-up, because they want to salvage the situation. Most of them saw that these girls end up with another guy after a few months . One of them said that he does say these words but not in the midst of a break-up. Instead he said it while they are together to show his girl his love for her. Are those words that he said then to her binding? According to him, no. His reason was that he said that in the midst of a spur of emotions. At that point of time, he does feel that way. However, months later, he may not feel the same again, especially so when the girl becomes unfaithful or something along those lines. Do you agree?
How about the girls? How will you feel if your boyfriends say these things to you? Will you feel special?
Personally, I would feel special if the girl tells me that I am her first. Of course it must be said truthfully and sincerely. As for the second question, I find it hard to believe if she tells me that. Why? Just look at society.
I asked them this question: "Would you feel special if your girlfriend tells you that you are her first boyfriend?"
They gave interesting answers. Some of them said that they will feel special. However, there was one who said that he would find it hard to believe. Why? According to him, girls are having boyfriends like no one's business. So if he were to encounter such a situation, he will just smile but refuse to believe it in his heart. He goes on by saying that each girl defines "first" differently. For Jane, it may be the "first" boy she held hands with. For Jill, it may be the "first" boy she brought home to meet her parents. Of course everyone has different definitions of "first". Interesting.
Next question I asked was: "Assuming you are having a break-up with your girlfriend and she said that after you there will be no one else. In short, you will be the last to hold that special place in her heart. Will you believe her?"
All of them were unanimous, saying that they won't believe any word of it. One of them said that he will just smile and nod his head, but in his heart, he won't accept it. Why? Their main reason was that their girlfriend said those words in the midst of the break-up, because they want to salvage the situation. Most of them saw that these girls end up with another guy after a few months . One of them said that he does say these words but not in the midst of a break-up. Instead he said it while they are together to show his girl his love for her. Are those words that he said then to her binding? According to him, no. His reason was that he said that in the midst of a spur of emotions. At that point of time, he does feel that way. However, months later, he may not feel the same again, especially so when the girl becomes unfaithful or something along those lines. Do you agree?
How about the girls? How will you feel if your boyfriends say these things to you? Will you feel special?
Personally, I would feel special if the girl tells me that I am her first. Of course it must be said truthfully and sincerely. As for the second question, I find it hard to believe if she tells me that. Why? Just look at society.
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posted by Steph at 9:44 PM
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6 Comments:
Ditto i agree to what u wrote actually, but for me personally i rather take it for its worth than contemplate on other possibilities..u know
Haha...true.
Sometimes it isn't good to think too much :D
haha...speaking from experience, i kinda like a guy before i met my first boyfriend and we were very close. as in very very very close. he called me every hour to tell me what he's doing and he'll apologize whenever he's going out with another girl. i got very confuse at that time yet i did not agree to be his girlfriend. after that we didn't contact each other after. later a year i met my first bf. i told him that he's the first but he insisting that im lying bcos i had a relationship with another person before him.i got very frustrated. from this experience i can conclude that relationship is a very complicated thing bcos each and every person has their own way of seeing things
For the first question, hmmm, well, I will say "Wow, really? How nice!" and that's the end of the story. I do not know whether she is lying or not as that is a pretty good line for her to grab my attention.
For the second question, I will of course be very happy and afterall breaking up doesn't mean cannot be friends anymore. There is simply no logic behind if she wants to lie that I'll be her last. There is no reason to say this if she decides to lie.
Steph to Jerine:
Wow...okay that's something new. I guess it's hard to have someone believe in you, especially so if it's love. As they say, love is jealous.
Hope that this small issue won't get between you two :D
Steph to Teddy:
Haha...interesting. It's true that it's an attention-grabbing sentence, but it's more than that if spoken sincerely and from the heart.
Well, as my friend has said, she may have said that to try to save the relationship. I don't know. Maybe it's true, maybe it's not. I guess only time will tell.
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