Remaining As A Virgin -> A Treasure Or Unwanted Individual?
Are you a virgin? If you are do you think it's good to remain so?
I was surfing around Yahoo! Answers when I saw this question "Do females find viginity in a man attractive?". Hm...do I know the answer? Nope as first, I am not a female, so I won't know how the female mind works. Second, not all females think the same way. This question was asked by a male.
I went in to take a look...
Interestingly, there are some who prefer an "experienced" man.
cheeronu1: I like a experienced man. But if your in highschool or even just starting college hold off, till you feel you are ready. Every girl likes something different in a guy.The majority however, prefer a man who is chaste.
colie: Not really, unless your in high school then the girls probably like that but I wouldn't want to be a teacher. I like when a man knows what he's doing.
some1karma: I certainly do, and don't look at you as trash or a wannabe. I appreciate a man's virginity. He will be just like me when we are married together for the first time.Then there are those who doesn't mind if the man has it or not.
ysa_ashenkin: Too be the first especially in a loving relationship or to know that he waited until we were married is one of the highest honors a person can give to another. There is only one first, and that one will be remembered forever, so make sure it's a memory you want to have and not a regret that will haunt you.
smile101: Absolutely, It makes a women feel great to know that she is the first and that the guy she is with is strong enough to have told all of the past girls "no". Keep waiting for the perfect girl.
tx_born_n_bred04: I find that very attractive...it shows that he values himself as a person and is not afraid of what other people think of him. I am a virgin and I'm proud to admit it. Virginity is a gift that you should save for your husband or wife.
krislh79: I would prefer a man to not be a virgin, so he know's what he's doing. However, I wouldn't mind if a guy were a virgin.And here's the best answer according to the one who asked the question.
JustMe: YES, definitley. Knowing that I'm the first girl he ever cared enough about to share that gift with is definitley attractive :)So I guess, the winning cup goes to the party that prefers a chaste man.
How about a virgin female? There's this question that was asked - "guys choose: Virgin or no virgin wife?". The asker is a female.
Interestingly, majority of those who answered this question prefer an "experienced" person.
Honey: An experienced partner is always better than unexperiencedThen there's this sad view.
TheAfrican: Either is fine, but experienced is prefered. I say that because of future reference.
james: We want to date easy women and then marry a virgin.The best answer chosen by the asker is this.
prepelita1212: Im 30, single guy, girls say im cute, im a Christian but still as sinner. I am a virgin, and I would so love for the girl God has for me to also be a virgin. It's so rare to find in todays culture someone who thinks beyond todays pleasures. Yeah, we are all horney, im like a 9 out of 10 but I want to save that for my wife. I know very few couples that waited till marriage and none of them regret it. I want to share my story to my friends and children (when they are older) on how me and their mother waited for eachother and committed to only be with eachother. So thats the story from a guy from Michigan. I think I will ask a questin now, virgin or no virgin husband see what happens :POkay, after reading the two sides, I feel that it's quite sad that people no longer treasure their chastity as they used to. Personally, I feel that it's good to remain chaste. I mean, can you imagine how happy your spouse will be if you say, "I am still chaste and I would like to give it to you." It speaks volumes of your commitment and dedication in waiting for the person of your life. I know I would be happy if she said that to me as I know from there she trusts me and loves me to entrust something so precious that she has kept all these while to me.
What if someone is no longer chaste due to some sexual abuse early on in their life? I feel that it's still okay as chastity is more than just the physical, it involves something deeper, something that cannot be seen and hence cannot be taken unless the owner gives it. I believe that for such people, they still have it even though physically speaking it's gone. So I believe they are still chaste in that sense.
Conclusion? Treasure it, people around may say that you are "left in the shelf" or "unwanted". But hey! You have something that they don't. And that special someone in your life will appreciate it. If he/she doesn't, then he/she is not worthy of you.
I hope that this post will encourage you in keeping yourself for him/her.
"A moment's pleasure may result in a lifetime of regret, so don't throw it away." ~ Anonymous
(Note: These are views of different individuals, so please don't flame them if you disagree with them. Everyone is unique and hence think differently. Typos are kept as they are in the sites where they are shown.)